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Karen S. Bonnell's avatar

Happy New Year … may you four always hold the ties of memory, the weaving of experience with gentle hands and fierce protection : )

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Lovely Karen. Thank you!

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Jen Zug's avatar

Hmmmm… I felt all of this one deeply. The teenagers who drag their feet to participate, their interests separating from your own, if one abstains from joining the other will follow, fear of falling, even the hurt feelings at being teased. sometimes but not always!

Thank you for writing this—it helps to know I’m not alone (cliche but true). This year holiday made me aware that I’m in the middle of an awkward transition with my kids (age 19 & 21). Some of the traditions we’ve had for years landed differently this year, they participated but were less enthusiastic. I think I’m on the cusp being a little more in their rearview mirror, and I didn’t expect it to hit me as hard as it is. 😭

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

I find that I am surprised and sometimes overcome with emotion when I least expect it. You are definitely not alone.

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Cuzjj's avatar

This is such a sweet story and awesome thoughts for the new year- Happy New Year!

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thank you! Happy New Year to you as well!

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Beth's avatar

Loved the ins and outs of your story! And the fact that I could picture you up on Mt Spokane. I was up there the day before. Our conditions weren't stellar due to the warmth, but the snow hadn't landed yet. Have a wonderful year with your family!

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thanks so much Beth! I wish you a wonderful year as well. Maybe we’ll see each other on the mountain.

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Sue Ferrera's avatar

This is such a wonderful post, reminding me of so many memories with my kids/family. While life is never perfect, the experience in hindsight is something you'd never trade.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thanks Sue! I’m glad you enjoyed it and it brought good memories to mind!

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Nicole Steinbok's avatar

Lovely story and writing style. Thank you for sharing.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thanks so much Nicole! Thanks for reading!

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Nancy Friedland's avatar

This was so lovely to read. I love the crossed off words, the attempts to be patient and kind and loving in spite of your initial tendency, calling on your yoga mastery! And I love the metaphor of falling down and kids falling away. I feel this deeply. I'm at the end of a writing retreat right now, and didn't always meet my high standards of being centered and focused. So this was helpful that way too. Thank you for writing this. I'm not sure how it landed in my inbox but I'm glad it did.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thanks Nancy. What a lovely comment. I’m so glad it resonated for you. I read it over with my writing group before publishing and one of my group members commented on it being about striving for perfection and how that messes with our head sometimes which I am now thinking about a lot. I’m so glad you made the time for a writing retreat. I often find that sometimes those spaces are a chance for me to return to myself even if a lot of writing doesn’t get done. However, you found your way to this space, I’m sure glad to have you here.

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Janisse Ray's avatar

You have such a beautiful family.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

I like them. Thanks for reading. 🥰

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Priscilla Stuckey's avatar

Aargh, it’s all so believable! And ahhh, your end to the day is so beautiful! It’s always amazing how being outside can put us right, even when conditions suck—I mean, are less than ideal. Thanks for making me laugh.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

So true! Thanks for reading.

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Andrea Bass's avatar

I’m so glad you’re back! This post was a delight. I could hear your voice so clearly.

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Thanks friend! I’m so glad my falling on my ass brought you joy.

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Sara's avatar

This was so lovely - and made me tear up *and* laugh, as only the best art can do ❤️

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Kristy Acevedo's avatar

Love the crossed out sections lol! Totally relate to the falling (not from skiing, but I fell off a curb last year at a book conference) and now I have a writers’ conference at the end of January, and I’m like “Don’t fall again!”

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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

I remember that. You got this!

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